Ever stuck in a situation where you try to give your 100 percent to someone and they behave in a way that is unacceptable and you feel worthless?
What did you do? Have you reacted or remain calm, how did you respond?
Louise has very well demonstrated the choices and the way you respond determines your behavior, your communication and your success.
Let me summaries it to you by an example:-
Imagine a situation where you took your best friend to some place After sharing tensed year of friendship. You taking time out of your busy schedule just to reconnect with them as he/she is an important part of your life. And on the other hand all he/she does is constantly scroll onto their phone.
You have 5 choices to choose and react in present moment..
1) Red chair:- attacking chair
You being on this chair, shouts at your friend for not paying attention to you or your conversation.
2) yellow chair:- self doubt
Being the one taking initiative to smooth things out, you feel worthless as he/she is busy on phone. Instead of making things right all you do is allow emotions of you feeling worthless and not good enough and start feeling low about yourself.
3) green chair:- wait, patient
Instead of reacting with either of the red or yellow emotions, you keep yourself calm, tend to wait and observe your friend. You try to wait to let them finish their work so you could have all their attention.
4) blue chair:- detect
You instead of choosing all the above methods, try to communicate and resolve things by a direct description of the actual problem and communing up with a cumulative method or approach or solution to resolve it.
5) purple chair:- connect
You try to empath with your friend, you try to put yourself in his shoes and feel what he is undergoing. You keeping everything aside try to connect with your friend on a deeper level.
These are the five choices, five emotions you come across. How you react to them signifies a very important indication of your success ahead..
How to use these choices in a positive manner for self development.
1) Red chair:- Transforming your negative judgments of differences – ‘Our way is the right way’ into positive interpretation and appreciation…‘Your way is an alternative and potentially complimentary way.’
2) Yellow chair:- Understand and leverage different management approaches to communication, feedback, leadership, trust-building, scheduling and persuading.
3) Green chair:- Explore and interpret the different systems of beliefs and values driving specific behaviors and business practices.
4) Blue chair:- Practice collaborative cross-communication skills and conflict resolution dialogues in both spoken and written form.
5) Purple chair:- Manage Virtual communication and collaboration with colleagues and business partners at distance.
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